This site was created as a result of me wanting to be a catalyst of positive changes in people’s lives.  Because I’m healed from my past traumatic childhood experiences, I feel compel to help others to get them on their own healing journey. I’m not a professional in the medical/psychology or writer/journalist or researcher/scientist field.  I’m just a person who has been healed from past traumatic events in her childhood and feel blessed and just want to make a positive contribution to the community.  So, this website was created with the intention of providing a “safe and nurturing” place where people can go and share their stories and hopefully will help them relieve the heavy burden of carrying a “secret” and start them on a healing journey and at the same time may help heal others.

As someone who had suffered from experiencing negative feelings and emotions due to past experience of sexual abused for years starting at the age of thirteen by the husband of a foster care mom and who was threaten with a shotgun if I was to tell anyone, I understand how those destructive feelings and emotions could affect one’s inner peace and mental well-being.  However, I can tell you with 100% certainty that I no longer carry any of those harmful feelings or emotions for the past events and can share my stories without having to recoil or experience those negative feelings/emotions. I still love my foster care mom very much and appreciate everything she had done to take care of me and my siblings, who were unaccompanied minors when we came to the U.S. from a refugee camp. I no longer feel hatred or vengeful toward the perpetrator. Basically, I don’t give the guy any feelings. He’s not worth wasting any of my time to have “any” feelings/emotions for him, especially negative ones which would tend to ruin my mood and take away my sense of peace. I’ve forgiven him and let go of the past events.

If you continue to have any negative feelings or emotions for the perpetrator or the terrible event, this means you continue to let the person/event “control” your feelings and emotions and negatively affect your life.  Why allow the perpetrator or past events to continue to make you suffer and allow such terrible feelings and emotions fester and affect your well-being? I feel very blessed that I’ve been given the greatest gift…the ability to forgive.  As Maya Angelou said, once you can forgive, you’ve set yourself free and be relieved of the burden of carrying the resentments…Just let it go…”When you forgive, you in no way change the past-but you sure do change the future.” Bernard Meltzer

Like Marianne Williamson said “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it.  And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.”

So, if anyone has ever experience trauma or terrible experiences or was done wrong by someone in their lives and have always been afraid or reluctant to tell anyone because the fear of experiencing the feeling of shame, guilt, or fear of judgement or no one will believe you, and have been suffering with the anguish of holding it inside, this is where you can go and share your story and have someone else witness your story and be heard. Don’t hold it inside you; be set free from experiencing the feelings of being stuck or trap or helplessness or shame or guilt or anguish or fear or rage or full of resentments with your “secret”.  I was able to be set free and be healed as a result of sharing my story with others.

This remind me in one of the scenes in the original 1986 Crocodile Dundee movie where Sue and Mick were talking about seeing a psychiatrist to talk about problem…

Here’s the transcript from the movie after the subject of psychiatrist came up at a party Sue and Mick were at:

Sue Charlton: People go to a psychiatrist to talk about their problems. She just needed to unload them. You know, bring them out in the open.

Michael J. “Crocodile” Dundee: Hasn’t she got any mates?

Sue Charlton: You’re right. I guess we could all use more mates. I suppose you don’t have any shrinks at Walkabout Creek.

Michael J. “Crocodile” Dundee: No back there if you got a problem you tell Wally. And he tells everyone in town, brings it out in the open, no more problem.